Why most relationships fail
Tuesday, March 19, 2013 //
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Most relationships tend to fail. Not because of absence of love. Love is always present. It's just that one was being loved too much and the other wasn't being love enough.
A relationship is a contract usually between two people connecting them emotionally and physically. Most relationships are started with the intentions of a couple spending the rest of their lives together but not all relationships work out. There are a variety of causes to the ending of a relationship including but not limited to: a cheating partner, a controlling partner, an abusive partner, a lack of communication from both partners, and partners becoming "burnt out" or tired of one another.
In all of these causes to the ending of a relationship the key seems to be a deprivation of the binding glue of a relationship, love. Love is what holds a relationship together and when one or both individuals participating in said relationship lose the amount of love they once had for one another, or the love they once had for themselves, the partner/s resort to relationship ending tactics such as cheating, and abuse.
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Don't look for happiness, create it
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Happiness is a mind state or feeling/s of contentment usually caused by but not limited to being loved, satisfied, pleasured, etc. Feelings of happiness are thought by many people to only be caused by other people in their lives, spending time with family members, spending a night on the town with a spouse or relationship partner, but a lot of people fail to realize there are things you can do on your own to bring yourself happiness.
There are a lot of things you can do to create happiness, such as setting a goal and accomplishing it, or just taking yourself out and treating yourself. Not only can you create happiness for yourself but it is also easy to create happiness for others, such as donating your time, money, or belongings to the less fortunate, spending time with a younger sibling or family member that may look up to you. Be proactive about happiness, instead of waiting for it to be created by someone else and come to you, make yourself happy, or better yet, make someone else less fortunate than you happy!
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Starting over in life
Monday, March 18, 2013 //
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Maybe it's not always about trying to fix something broken. Maybe it's about starting over and creating something better.
Certain situations arise in lives in which things can not be fixed, and need to be started over. Though giving up on a life into which you put your all into may be one the hardest things to do (if it's not the hardest), it may also be the most beneficial choice. Starting a new life happens everyday to people who split up, get divorced, go bankrupt, lose jobs, lose close loved ones and many other difficult scenarios. It is recommended that before starting over to try to work out all potential solutions, but as most of us know, sometimes there is no better solution than to just start from scratch.
Starting over can be done most effectively with the designing and implementation of a solid plan or set of goals. It is essential before starting over to make sure you use all assets, support systems, and aid to ensure that you will have a smooth take off on your new journey. Starting over is most always difficult, but can also be the most beneficial decision that you will ever make in life.
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Simple rules for happiness
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Five Simple Rules For Happiness:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.
Happiness is a state of mind that cannot be put in words but has to be experienced. Life can be made full of joy and happiness if it is understood the right way. As sorrow becomes halved when shared with others, happiness becomes doubled when you share it with your loved ones. Happiness cannot be curtailed or confined to one single concept.
There are various things that cause happiness depending upon the mentality of the person. If millions of dollars can cause happiness to a reason, the beautiful bloom of rose or the smile of a small baby can bring unbound happiness to another. But in a nutshell, happiness can be brought about by change of mind or attitude or alteration in the perspective, but it is one thing in life that cannot be bought by money.
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Apologizing ♥.
Sunday, March 17, 2013 //
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Apologizing doesn't always mean that you're wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego.
We must remember an apology isn't an apology unless it's meaningful! If your apology isn't sincere and you're just apologizing to avoid an argument then that can just lead to more damage. Also you can't just apologize for everything, you have to know what you're apologizing for. You have to be able to admit you're in the wrong and mean it. Apologizing can be very relieving for all parties involved including yourself.
It's a tough world
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Just because somebody flirts with you, doesnt mean they like you. Just because somebody likes you, doesnt mean they want to go out with you. Just because somebody goes out with you, doesnt mean they love you. Just because somebody loves you, doesnt mean they wont hurt you. Because people lie & things change. Boyfriends cheat, best friends leave, and there will always be those people that would kill to see you fall.
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I choose to trust him...
Saturday, March 16, 2013 //
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We don't get to choose who we fall for. They may mistreat us, ignore us or hurt us, but we stay with them, why? It's not because we are stupid or we enjoy getting hurt, it's because we can see the good in them, its because despite all the arguments, they are the ones who make us feel a certain way that no one else can and we value that feeling, and because our brain won't allow them to leave our minds, our hearts, and wont allow them to leave our lives.
Stop falling, stop listening, stop texting back, stop worrying. Stop getting your hopes up, stop telling yourself this one's different. You have heard this story time and time before, and you know how it ends. He's playing that game and you are losing.
But I choose to trust him... again.
Don't judge yourself though someone else's eyes
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It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else's eyes.
When will you take the time out to stop judging yourself? When will you take the time out to realize that you are good enough just the way you are, and that with continual growth you will always be more than good enough, instead of "not quite, but almost good enough" or instead of being someone who was good, but lost themselves along the way.
Get over judgment. Get over the judgments of your peers, and quit acting accordingly. There Is so much life out there too explore that we leave from our lives when we choose not to look past the judgment of others, and our own judgments of ourselves.
Be a critic, but only criticize yourself in areas that you know you need to grow. Read books, continue to seek knowledge, and keep experiencing life in as many ways as possible. Continue to grow into yourself, and continue to grow so much that you help others to grow along the way.
why does it hurt soo much?
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You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.
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People don't always need advice
Friday, March 15, 2013 //
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People don't always need advice. Sometimes all they need is a hand to hold, ear to listen & a heart to understand.
Instead of walking in pride, and telling someone about what YOU know, and what YOU went through that may be similar to what they are going through, walk in love, peace, and understanding by just giving your ear to listen, a body to hug, and a shoulder to cry on.
Once you get over yourself, and get away from your own self righteousness, the people that you choose to listen to and understand will undoubtedly start to pour more of themselves into you more and more each time you are able to connect.
Though there is a time to give advice, much of building relationships with people has to do with the way that we are just there for them in their times of true need! When you take time out of your own life and give of yourself by just being there and giving your ear, or shoulder to lean on, you will in turn have someone to be there for you in your times of need as well.
Once you get over yourself, and get away from your own self righteousness, the people that you choose to listen to and understand will undoubtedly start to pour more of themselves into you more and more each time you are able to connect.
Though there is a time to give advice, much of building relationships with people has to do with the way that we are just there for them in their times of true need! When you take time out of your own life and give of yourself by just being there and giving your ear, or shoulder to lean on, you will in turn have someone to be there for you in your times of need as well.
About me.
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I may be weird, but creative wise I have the knowledge to know and believe in my heart that my weirdness makes me unique. It is also in my so called weird that i am also able to know the difference and then stop my complaining and go out and make something somebody has never seen before. I was just ahead of my time that was what that was! xD
I smile a lot because I don't want people to see how broken i am inside, but sometimes I wish that someone would see through me and save me from my misery. I am proud of my heart, it's been played, cheated & broken, but it still works.
Don't judge me by my looks and beliefs. You have no idea who i am. If you get to know me, then you'll love me just like every other lucky person that knows me ♥.
